I think a well rounded plan would be helpful in your situation. As an example working together on verbal and non-verbal ques. Pass words that have another meaning for danger, someone in the front or backyard, men at the front door that say things like we're here to do an inspection, someone in the house, etc. Present your plan or preps as a unit, not, "here is some stuff and if I get wacked your on your own". Think and act as one. Communicate your concerns to each other. Can't say it any clearer than this, if someone or something is messing with either of you, then they are messing with BOTH of you. Can't remember what movie it was but the lead lady in the film said "men are good at fighting and dying, women are good at surviving". This is not a good solution. Strive to be and act as one in all your preps and defenses. If you and your wife are on the same page then you have some skills that are important and she has some skills that are also important. If you are not acting together then you are two people that may be hindering each other and your success. P.S. My brother is in a situation with a child very like your own. Plan and practice to be a solid unit together. Best wishes, respectfully, R.K.